“A bird is sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is not on the branch, but on her own wings.” -Unknown
Today is my 42nd birthday. I find myself reflecting on where I am – where I have come from and what I have learned.
And these words resonate deeply with what I have come to know is true of me. I did not always feel this way. 
Clinically we call it internal versus external locus of control.
Attachment-wise, it is the product of learning to be our own deepest and surest source of nurture, protection, and wisdom.
When we see ourselves clearly, we can feel the power of our wings to hold us up and carry us forward toward the life we choose.
For we are no longer little ones – trapped and dependent on a nest that may barely hold us – balancing precariously in the wind – unable yet to take flight.
Where are you in your journey in knowing and trusting and relying on the strength of your wings? I would love to hear!! 
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