Well over 20 years ago I applied to colleges with absolutely no idea how I would be able to afford to go. I applied anyway. And somehow, through a string of miracles – grants, scholarships, and loans just enough to meet what I needed and two truckers who helped drive me and my overheating Honda […]
As little ones we are designed to have a cry that PULLS our caregivers to us! It is called the “attachment cry” and was identified by researcher Jaak Panksepp as linked to the affective system of panic. The first time I heard this, I was fascinated, panic is actually the cry and reaching for someone!! […]
“Sometimes you don’t know the weight of something you’ve been carrying until you feel the weight of its release.” – Unknown I have had the incredible privilege of witnessing my clients experience this so many times through EMDR therapy. I cannot wait for the day when EMDR therapy is a household word and therapists are […]
“Ever so quietly, I walked around with the loudest heartbreak and I wondered how passers-by could not hear the bombs dropping; could not hear thunder; did not notice the catastrophe.” – Choë Frayne There are some of us so good, so practiced, so skilled at holding all the pain inside – that no one can […]
“Be the woman you needed as a girl.” – Unknown Be the adult we needed as a child. Yes, of course to the children in our lives. But, also to the little ones, our younger selves, that are still inside of us – locked in the perception that it is still the past, not yet […]
“She is a beautiful piece of broken pottery, put back together by her own hands. A critical world judges her cracks while missing the beauty of how she made herself whole again.” – JM Storm There can come a day in which we can see ourselves accurately, in which we can see the beauty in […]
If hopping out of the curtain at your brother counts . . . then we definitely have our own little Easter Bunny in the house!!
“Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.” – Victor Hugo The miracle in EMDR therapy . . . that the past can finally be in the past.
Activating trauma memory networks – so that they can be desensitized and reprocessed with EMDR therapy requires being able to notice where disturbance is felt in the body. Learning it’s safe to be present with and feel our body is no small feat, Lionhearts, if we have learned, since early on, that it is a […]
“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” – Anne Lamott We, as little humans, are entirely dependent on our caregivers to stay alive and will instinctively adapt in order maintain attachment in whatever way is possible. Idealization occurs […]