“Darling, you feel heavy because you are too full of truth. Open your mouth more, let the truth exist somewhere other than inside your body.” – Della Hicks-Wilson
A significant factor in trauma being trapped, unresolved in our nervous systems is the inability to respond in the way that we needed to at the time – to fight, to flee, to SPEAK!
Instead – because of our being little and without choice at the time or because of the absence of someone powerful and caring enough to intervene to protect us – we too often learned out of pure necessity to freeze, submit, please, and placate.
Thus, the trauma experiences and the related emotions and incomplete actions of things we needed to do and say stay locked inside us.
And we instinctively continue our silence long into adulthood – too often gravitating toward or staying in situations and relationships that do not welcome our voice.
Gabor Mate speaks powerfully to how damaging this can be to our bodies in his book “When the Body Says No.”
To heal, we so often need to learn we can speak – and that there are those who welcome our voices and with whom we will be heard!!