“Perhaps the saddest, and the most tragic story ever told, is a beautiful soul, made to feel anything but.” – William Broms
I’ve been thinking this week how important it is that we know – WHATEVER it is that we have been through – if it hurt us then it counts!
I have learned through years now of being a trauma specialist, that trauma isn’t just the the Big T kind we all think of.
While those events, of course, do damage, so can the littler experiences that our brain just didn’t quite know how to deal with – thus, they became like a fissure, which led to a series of cracks, and maybe eventually left us feeling like we were in pieces.
A similar sort of thing can happen – not from the occurrence of something bad – but from the absence of something necessary. It is so difficult to grow up feeling whole and secure in ourselves and able to lean into the support of those around us, without being seen and heard and guided and protected and nurtured as little ones.
I have seen that any or all of these types of traumas can be at the root of depression, anxiety, addictions, compulsions, and “personality disorders” – not just classic PTSD.
I believe it is so important that we recognize as valid anything that has caused, as the poet writes, “a beautiful soul made to feel anything but” – so that the impact of this tragedy can be honored and that soul can repaired and restored.