“When I must, I start again.” -Alison Malee
I have been thinking a lot lately about what it takes to “adult” well when we didn’t begin with a secure attachment – particularly how hard it can be without the guidance and wisdom and safety net that is part of having a secure attachment.
There can be so much frustration with having to learn how to do things by screwing them up royally first!!
There can be so much sadness when looking back at the lost years of being held down by the trauma itself or entangled in the trappings of trauma (the negative, self-limiting beliefs, the methods of coping that harmed as much as helped, the relationships that proved to feel just like home).
There can be weariness in comparing our timelines with those who launched into young adulthood supported and equipped.
Yet, as the poet so simply states it, we start again when we must.
It takes courage, determination, lionhearted fight. But with starting again, we finally can create a new story, a different ending.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you resonate with this!
Thank you to @alison.malee for the beautiful original post!!