I was reading on Quora yesterday and came across this question posed by someone: “What does having a mom feel like?”
Someone’s answer: “It feels like safety and comfort, security and love. My mom would have done anything for us kids.”
This is exactly what we as little ones needed – and yet it is sadly not what all of us were able to have.
For some, this was because our mother’s insecurities left her too inhibited to model having a strong voice and presence in the world. For others, it was because her own trauma left her unable to protect herself – let alone her children. And for others, it was because she herself became the abuser and left wounds from words and actions so abhorrent that it is was actually unfit for her to hold the title “mother.”
While we can’t go back and change what was – I have found that EMDR therapy modified to treat complex/developmental trauma can heal these hurts. We can become secure adults despite what was missing or amiss in our early attachment experiences!!
I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you resonate with this!
Thank you to Billy Dodson, Nature Photographer – Savanna Images for permission to share this beautiful photo!
The Course covers many of the elements that can make a world of difference in treating complex/developmental trauma with EMDR therapy – particularly powerful tools for repairing the attachment system. While it is not therapy – it is designed to supplement therapy in a powerful way! If you’re curious about learning more about the Course and how EMDR therapy can heal trauma by transforming how memories are stored in the brain – then check out the link above.